tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2914408138577047847.post2875296853508884795..comments2023-08-30T07:46:07.435+08:00Comments on Tabouleh: 21 Days... AcceptanceTaboulehhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01207053179340767332noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2914408138577047847.post-59639354378234880372013-11-14T05:32:08.793+08:002013-11-14T05:32:08.793+08:00It is an awful feeling isn't it? Looking behin...It is an awful feeling isn't it? Looking behind the feelings with curiousity is the way forward I think Lana.Though sometimes it is hard to see what is behind, once we are aware we can start to find ways to manage the feelings differently if we want to. Doesn't mean it is easy though. I am constanly looking behind the feelings and setting intentions, only to hit boiling point again and losing my temper. Working and looking after a house and two children is hard work and you are bound to feel overwhelmed sometimes. I love the way you turn this into a positive challenge for yourself and the way we think about things does help with acceptance. BUT I know that you don't have time for you but that must change dear Lana. What would you like to do? Can your husband give you some me time once a month? janhttp://www.opportunitywithdanger.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2914408138577047847.post-77252556770013118312013-11-13T07:08:20.742+08:002013-11-13T07:08:20.742+08:00Oh my goodness, if I go back to the diaries that I...Oh my goodness, if I go back to the diaries that I kept when I had the last two of the five children that I had.. I am impressed and very sad at the endless things to do and that were done, and then be a wife to the husband.. plus the last two got up alternate hours during the night for 4 YEARS!! I do not know how I kept going..and was a walking zombie!!!! and I know that I wanted my husband to do more around the house, but as he had a full time hard job, I did not verbalise and he couldnt guess what I wanted.. but he did take the kids out of my way which was his way to try and help.. but I swear that if I had had the last two first, there certainly would never have been five kids in the family!! <br />I think too that trying to keep a house spotless, all the ironing done and cooking good meals, trying to help with homework and generally trying to be a super person just does NOT work.. you have to have some time for you...I used to set 9pm for my time to read and relax and it was a god send to me to have just a little while to recharge my batteries..<br /> it is a common thing to try and achieve it[everything just so**] all,with all the work that you have to do.. but... children can be taught to help around the house, and can start at quite a young age.. when I had the last two, my eldest ones were 12.11 and 7, so they certainly had a job or two to do.. Try n ot to beat yourself up too... DO get a baby sitter once in a while so you can get out on a proper DATe with your husband... j ust going to the pictures is a real help too and you can appreciate being you and him not just mother and dad... try and get them to help more, write a list which gets ticked off each day and at the end of the week, a little reward for the kids will have them helping and being rewarded.. and if you want your husband to help... dont just stew and simmer, TELL him. poor man cannot guess what you want.. I hope this helps, that we are all the same, and its tough out there, but having a family ,built in love, [lthough you might get to lose your temper now and then,]is quite one of the very best things on earth... good luck, lots and lots of sympathy coming and hugs too from this side of the world..janzi**janzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11061408016373122220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2914408138577047847.post-81645024703837784082013-11-12T11:47:58.058+08:002013-11-12T11:47:58.058+08:00I knew I was not alone... I knew that there are so...I knew I was not alone... I knew that there are so many mothers and working mothers who would feel similar to what I am going through... and although I feel that it is good to have some company and know that I am not the only one... it is hard keeping that resentment inside.... I am going to try just to let go and just accept that this is not going away... I hope ti works. <br />Taboulehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207053179340767332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2914408138577047847.post-64605086996724938002013-11-12T02:18:30.241+08:002013-11-12T02:18:30.241+08:00It is very normal for women to feel resentment. I ...It is very normal for women to feel resentment. I know I do. My husband retired 2 months back and nothing has changed. He has not taken on one single task that belongs to me. Not one. And yes, I am resentful. Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03479872783727855901noreply@blogger.com